Stuff happenes

A little look into my life recently!

It’s been 55 days!

Hello people who have opened this email, I hope I don’t bore you too much. This email isn't a sales email, it’s more of a “this is the shit i’ve been dealing with” type of email. So if your one of them people who tells me “we arnt here for ur life stories your a spider seller luv” please just move on… yeah I sell spiders but i’m still human, anyway she’ll we get into it?

The nitty gritty.

It all started with a well earnt trip over to Poland while the kids went away with their dad during the summer holidays.

We booked oursefs a flight and decided we were off to see our friend. We had an absolutely amazing time and it was so refreshing to slow down for once…. Unfortunately the morning of our last day out there I received some bad news, that my uncle Marcus, aged 45 had suddenly passed away (reason still unknown) which I then had to break the news from a foreign country to my own mum. That was heart breaking. Needless to say my sprit on the last day wasn’t what it had been previously… I muddled through our last day with some tears and some laughter - grieving works in weird ways. We ended our holiday with goodbyes and promises to do it again soon! We were then back at the airport and awaiting our return flight… which was bloody delayed! We finally got home at 4am and set our alarm for 8am because we then had to go collect the dog by 8:45am. By 9:30am I had collected the dog, sent him and the husband back home, collected my mum and we arrived on my grandads doorstep to confort him and check he was okay… (He also lost his older son -Matthew aged 48 only 9 months ago to cancer) upon arriving on my grandads door step we found out he had an infection which put him in hospital only 3 days later, naturally myself, mum and my siblings all wanted to spend as much time as we could with grandad.. We were then told just 24 hrs after he went into hospital that he only had 24/48 hours to live. The infection had caused abscesses on his liver and his body was too weak to operate on. This is only 6 days after learning about my uncle Marcus, which we were waiting for the coroner report before we could sort anything funeral wise out. If your still reading, please know its appreciated. So my grandad was dying and my uncle was waiting to be laid to rest… when my grandad said to us… I don’t have long left, I want to go with Marcus. So poor Marcus had to wait until my grandad gave up.. Anyway he outlived the 48 hour dead line he was given and it was decided he should be moved to a hospice. In REALITY I should have shut the business and said tough shit i’m dealing with somthing here. But I difn’t…. I worked tirelessly around royal mail strikes and going back and forth to the hospice. I wasnt sleeping, If I wasn’t going to work in the middle of the night I was editing the website or replying to emails. (remember this all happened in the summer holidays so I also had kids to contend with!) After 3 weeks of my grandad being at the hospice we got a phone call telling us his breathing had changed and we should make way to say our final goodbyes… we rushed up that hospice with tears steaming. We stayed all day and my mum stayed all night (I would have if I didn't have the kids to look after too) but 24 hours passed and the fighter was still with us! I threw myself back into work and on Monday 5th September at 10:45am I got the phone call to say unfortunately he had passed away 15 minutes earlier. In the space of 24 days we had lost my uncle, and now my grandad. I’m actually her right now going “shit has it really been 8 days since he died” it been an absolute whirlwind recently.

Grandad told us many stories throughout the years but one that sticks in my mind which I actually texted our local raido station about and the read it out on live fm - proud moment lol!

It’s when he met the QUEEN. He was serving on the royal yatch (I got it wrong on radio - not that it matters really) when he shook the Queens hand and them promptly fell over in front of her and broke his knee cap! Only my grandad lol!

Anyway that’s the broken down version of events in the last month or so that i’ve been dealing with so if I have come across as rude, or not responded to an email I am really sorry!

The point?

I’m not really sure what the point in this was but it feels good to write shit down. I’ve been writing for the best part of an hour as I keep deleting bits, there’s so much to say - I've not even gone into our Poland trip (maybe another news letter) and i’ve not told you about the 4 birthdays, the wedding reception and the fact my best friend drove down from Wales for a week - and i’ve not seen her in 8 years so we managed to squeeze a few hours In somewhere so we could see each other and catch up.. We’ll I guess I have just told you about that lol but I didn't say what we did! Anyway thats about 4 minutes you arnt getting back.

Thanks for reading.

Danielle and Scott xxx.